Chapter 1 So you’re a loser, now what?
Well you are, aren’t you? Of course you’re a loser, everyone knows that. Some confirmation is needed, however, to really “get down there”. Answer the following questions truthfully;
- I enjoy my job/career.
- I have a happy and stable family life.
- I have a full and satisfying social life.
- People like me, and find me attractive.
- People listen intently when I talk.
- I set myself targets and always achieve them.
See what I mean? you really are a loser, so let’s get to work.
Self – that’s you.
Help – what you need.
For – how many weeks it’s going to take to start seeing results (Sorry, I couldn’t resist that)
Dummies – how you, and most of the Planet, percieve you.
Let’s start by making three lists.
List #1 – 5 things that are absolutely easy to do. (Like, remembering to breathe today, remembering to wear socks, going to work, not getting attacked by a Great White Shark, finding your own way home etc.)
List #2 – 5 things that are going to take some effort. (Like, phoning your mom to say Hi, making that Dental appointment, washing the car, paying that bill, taking the dog for a walk.)
List #3 – 5 really difficult things to achieve. (Like, arrange a date with Paris Hilton, phone the President, win the lottery, walk on water, get through to Telkom.)
Now, at the end of the day, just score yourself eg. 5/5 plus 2/5 plus 0/5. The secret, however is to CARRY FORWARD the failures to the next day and add another 5.
You will find, that your easy list will(should) always only have 5 items, your moderate list will tend to grow slowly (try and keep it manageable) and your hard list will merely incerement by 5 items per day.
What have we learnt by this?
- You are currently a loser.
- You are not a TOTAL loser.
- The moderate list is where most of the action is going to be.
Some homework for the next episode.
- Do the 3 lists EVERY SINGLE day.
- Think of a reward that you’d like, if you achieve more than 50%.
- Phone your Mom (or anyone else really special to you, who you haven’t spoken to for a while, and just listen to what they have to say)